Moved Back from Overseas to Figure This Out...

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W has been job searching for 3 months. She may have received an offer to work as a barista at a popular coffee shop today. But it is a branch 90 minutes away.

It would effectively cut her earnings by at least half. (It may endanger my job as well because of the nature of our work, but I don't want to factor that into how I am thinking about this because that is just the unique nature of the jobs we took - both husband and wife are typically employed in this organization).

If she gets the job, she will want to talk to me about how she will resign from the current job. She knows it might create a situation where I am jobless as well. I don't want to be controlling or manipulative. I will try just to listen to her and ask open questions to let her talk.

Then I will ask for a day or two to think about this. As I mentioned in my above post, I would jump into the job market if this MLC was just about a job or faith crisis. I would support her completely and take the plunge myself if "we" were still "us." Since we aren't, I am very uncertain about what I want.

I don't want to push her out the door, but this might be a moment where I stand firm and congratulate her on her new job, but also let her know I am not going to move 90 minutes west with no safety net except a part-time barista job. I want the M, but I also have to be concerned with providing for the kids and my own emotional health.