With regard to IC and guilt - yeah, it for sure has come up. She believes that I am beating myself up because I think "If I only" a lot. If I only would have done things differently, if I only would have been a better husband, etc. - so I feel guilty for feeling like I am still dropping the ball. She basically has told me that I have more than owned my piece of the puzzle and at this point it is her....not me.
My mom battles a lot with depression. Her temper flares and she says terrible things to me, my dad, my sister....been going on most of my adult life. She plays the victim a lot. I think she wanted to be angry about not being able to be at my house whenever she wanted...and I asked for about a 10 minute buffer. She is mad at XW and took it out on me. Everyone came over this morning to see my son open his presents -- everyone except my mom. She left the house without telling anyone where she was going. Her loss. It was fun....and my son even asked where she was.
This is why I stressed when I knew they were moving here. It can totally destroy the peace I had here for 15 years living alone.
