Clairvoyance? I really don't know how much that I actually have. what I try to do is give advice based on my judgment.
I have developed this judgment from experience. My experience comes from bad judgment. Trust me when I tell you that I have made the same mistakes so many of us have made in the past.
I learned not to respond to my W's script. It serves no purpose to react to it because typically the reaction to the scripts is negative. Telling them that "I am sorry that you feel this way" is a way that helps us detach from our emotions.
I think that if you started taking this approach it is going to show her something different. Like our good buddy Mach 1 always says, "So, how's that working for ya?"
I think that the time has come for you to start taking a different approach.
I have used the statement, "I'm sorry you feel that way," a few times. I know I need to respond that way more. I have setup boundaries like she can't stop by the house when I'm not there. I don't respond to emails right away. I don't often tell her what I am doing or when I am doing it. Having generally avoided communicating unless it was initiated by her, I have called her from time to time. I don't initiate relationship talk. I do share my feelings from time to time. But I can't help feeling I'm missing something. That there is something more I need to be doing, something I haven't yet done.
