Wife Said She's Done

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Im in Mediation- Is that option available to you? No attorneys/ $75 an hour. I told her she could have whatever she wanted (everything) - and she ended up giving me everything.

Lesson I learned. If there is no fighting in a relationship there is no passion and someone has given up themselves. After someone has "given up" and goes through the motions the other spouse looses respect and immediately wants something else. Bomb drop.

There was a time I remember, about a month after the bomb drop when we were getting along so well That i thought we were moving toward R. She asked me why I was so happy and I said that I thought we had a good day. She immediately changed her facial expression and said "I dont want to mislead you - Im still leaving".....

A month after that we had an amazing week long trip together. Our first night back at home was when she changed bedrooms- that was it.

Expect a period of much closeness before another tear to the family fabric. You will get nowhere with her during this period. Nowhere!

What are the items you will not give up. What do YOU want? everything else let her have it. YOU need to always remember no matter how much the alian has her brain right now you will co-parent with this woman the next 15+ years. THAT is the paradigm you must view this through.

BUT- if you do this right your life will be amazing on the other side