Wow Crimson, I just read the post about your Mom, missed it earlier.

It seems strong boundaries are in order for both your mother and your XW.

I now get where all the guilt comes from.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss