Crimson.....just checkin' in again.

[adinva]

Seriously, C, you need to learn to see this stuff with different eyes.

I just read about a seriously disturbed woman verbally abusing her son and behaving in a completely unacceptable way that should be ignored at the very least. I would have advised that son to draw some serious boundaries with that woman, to possibly stop interacting with her and consider cutting ties.

That son, on the other hand, is beating himself up wondering what he did, and feeling guilt and anxiety, and wondering what he could have done different to make this disturbed woman behave in a more loving way.

Are you kidding me?

That was nothing about you. Train yourself to not see that as your fault, and to walk away from it rather than looking for what you could do different to make her ok. She's not ok, and in all likelihood will never be. You just don't act like that to your son, you just don't. That's not about you.

You can't win because you're playing the wrong game. Don't play it, and then you'll be the winner.