You go to your lawyer's appointment and then you'll know what can and can't be done in the way of financial issues. How do you handle your husband? The same way that you have been, kind and civil. No one says you have to be happy/chipper all of the time. I don't think that you will have much contact w/him except via email and texts. He wants to avoid any alone, face-to-face time w/you because he doesn't want to see the disappointment, hurt, etc. that will be on your face and in your eyes. He doesn't want to hear the pain that will be in your voice either.
At some point, discussions will need to take place between the lawyers and I would presume that will begin very shortly because of all of the financial issues. Many of them will promise you things such as you keep this or that and I won't screw you over, etc., but as time moves along, they do exactly what they way that they won't do.
I know it has to be very tough walking around you home and thinking that this may be your last Christmas there...but it might not be. You have to try and stay positive at this point. As for the furniture, I'm sure you have some friends and family that may be able to help you move the heavy stuff. You don't know, your h may want some of the furniture as well. But for now, don't plan too far ahead. Keep your focus on today and what you need to ask the lawyer. Listen, write down the info and ask questions. No question is stupid..so ask.
BTW, it's okay to cry in front of the lawyer. They see this all of the time and know it is an emotional time. Good luck!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
