my wife left, but still lives with me

[tough spot]

My wife started an R conversation last night. In our previous conversation when she asked what i was thinking i had told her that i was just concentrating on working on myself. That either way, whether we stayed together or not, I would at least become a better person.

In addition, I mentioned that living together but being seperated was very emotionally difficult for me. I had stated that somewhere down the road if things continued on as they were, that i might ask her to move out. I stated that I would only do that if it became to emotionally painful for me to handle.

Last night the opening line of our conversation was her saying that she was hurt by my nonchalant way of possible asking her to leave. I had replied that if she could step into my mind and see how painful this process was that she would totally understand that my possibly asking her to leave was in no way a non thoughtful or flippant remark.

She asked me what I thought her choices were at this time. I stated that we could continue on as is, me giving her space, me working on me, and that if I change, then our relationship must also change. That that change may help build her trust to the point that part of the emotional wall she has built might get a crack in it and we could proceed from there.

I mentioned that this was a huge wake up call for me. She asked how she could have space without moving out. I told her i was giving her space by not bringing R talk up. I forgot to mention that i wasn't texting her or emailing her at all. Back to the concept of how painful this was for me on a daily basis, i mentioned that if i wasn't working on giving her space, i would be constantly talking about the R!

Anyone think i am revealing my hand to much in these type conversations. really only the second or third R talk we have had since the BD.