TL I don't expect anything to change, I'm just surprised he was teary and emotional.
Today was ok. D and I did Santa and presents, got ready to head to my mother's. It was a bit melancholy with my brother being gone, h not being there, people grieving but trying to enjoy each other. Remembering the past and laughing together. My nephew kept telling his brother 'not Uncle H anymore' and the other (who was close to H since we started dating)saying he could call him uncle if he wanted. Poor guy is confused and thinking H hates him (they play a sport together)and is worried if he goes and plays he will be ugly to him. I told him to go and ignore him or speak and walk on. I told him the only person H hates is himself and he thinks me but we need to pray for him. He said he does everyday. If my 16 year old nephew is struggling with this then what is my D stuffing down emotionally?
The only time I almost cried today is when my mother's husband (only married 5 years so not really a step parent to me) told me, as I was leaving, if I ever needed anything at all to just ask. Money, help around the house, anything. This is the man that my mother and I used to joke that we were married to the same man 30 years apart and now he's offering to step in if needed.
I am truly blessed.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
