Today at work my office-mates old boyfriend asked me out. I was horrified. It would be like high school, only worse. You just don't date your friends x's. Though when they got together right when I started working there I was mystified at the pairing....
Anyway, I'm headed to Spokane tomorrow night. This will be a Thanksgiving to remember.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Wendy, OMG! I'm so sorry that you were put in a position of having to tell him no. It's flattering that he would ask you, but I'm like you...I wouldn't date your friends x's either.
Please travel safely and I hope you enjoy your Thanksgiving.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm enjoying seeing my mom, nephews and niece. Haven't seen much of my brother. I did prove I still have my winter driving skills. Icy roads are no fun!
I filled up an extra suitcase with presents. I still have a day and a half here. Looking forward to more family fun. Hopefully no more casinos. Stinky cigarettes!
Aloha All!
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Well Heck! My mom and her 84 year old boyfriend decided we had to go to Idaho and see the Christmas lights and of course visit the casino again. More icy roads and stinky cigarettes!
My flight home yesterday got me a long ride with the woman in the middle sticking her elbow in my ribs repeatedly. I think she was leaning away from the young man on the aisle, I had the window. I watched the movie "Elf" on the plane. It was the first time I've seen it. Good way to kill time on a plane.
Back to work today, despite having gone to bed at midnight, Fun. Got called into the bosses office, got my performance report. I got the highest rating, and a nicely written review. So I will get a decent bonus, in theory.
I have some other strangeness going on. I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. Don't want it on the internet. Guess I will just have to trust my gut and see what happens.
My crazy magnet is working just fine....
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
I'm glad you arrived home safe and sound. It's tough going to bed a midnight and then having to get up and go to work in a few short hours.
I'm very happy to see that your performance report was the highest scored. That's something to be happy and proud about. I do understand the "gut" feeling about not sharing it on the internet...but you came here and we are very proud of you.
You've come a long way and have shared so much w/us and I admire the way that you are handling your situation. Go girl!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I talked over the strangeness with my office-mate. She helped me figure out a plan of action.
We have our office Christmas party tomorrow. And my X heads out for his month vacation on the mainland. I am looking forward to having the house to myself for a month. It has been a long time since I have been completely on my own.
My plans are to get some Christmas decorations up, get my presents wrapped and mailed, and maybe start a new tradition and just set up a little tree with only "Me" ornaments on it. When I was decorating the tree last year it depressed me. So many of the ornaments are "US" and bought with certain thoughts in my head. I think I will buy some nice ornament storage boxes and sort the ornaments out into them. Not many will make the cut onto my "Me" tree.
It also makes me sad how little time I have now to craft. I used to work full time and still make stuff. I don't know where my time goes now.
On a funny note my son called me in a panic and said someone had stolen $100 from our joint account. They did this from a casino in Idaho. He wasn't amused when I said "OOPS!" My mom kept coming up with crazy last minute plans. And I had locked my trip cash in my room safe. I was only bringing out a little money at a time. And when we ended up at the casino the other night I pulled what I thought was my debit card out and took out money.
So for part of my lunch break I was on the computer putting money back in his account. I gave him a little bonus, the $25 I won at the casino..... He was trying to buy gloves. As all of you know it sure gets cold when those artic blasts come calling. He still likes Colorado, but the reality of cold weather is starting to sink in.
Aloha and stay warm!
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
I spent since Friday morning fighting a strained back. Uggg. I decided to try something different so last night my friend and I went out on the water and spent an hour doing SUP. I also laid down on my board and did some yoga. My back is still a little sore, but WAY better than it was. I have a herniated disc and when it gets irritated there isn't much to do but wait is out.
Any excuse to get in/on the water!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Wow, that is how I feel. Right now I am spending my first Christmas alone, ever. Okay 1983 I was alone in Germany, waiting for my now X to get in right after the new year. But I was part of a couple and not alone in that sense.
So I am alone. Not dating anyone. Not even worried. I am busy all the time it seems. Always something to do around here.
I am happier than I was last year. I miss my kids like crazy. And my granddaughters even more. But we are all moving forward, making our separate ways into our futures. I no longer cry like a faucet. Thank goodness. I have some sadness, feel a little anxiety. But nothing like before.
I have learned so much from this site. And I think about how my X said so many mean things, and I let them sink in and hurt me. Now I realize how darn childish he is and mean. In all the anger, hurt and betrayal I never called him names, never called out his faults (as I see them) to his face, never belittled his body. I have had to work really hard to get past all that.
Mostly I know mow that I am only responsible for making myself happy. And I am working on doing just that!
My Christmas Day plan is to go look for shells, stand-up paddle and maybe lift some weights. If I can time the tides and winds right I also might go for a reef/tide pool exploring walk. It is a flexible plan.
I work Thursday and Friday. Thursday I might buy a new SUP board. I've been wanting two, to cover different conditions. And that way when I have a friend along they don't have to rent one. But I'm saying right now: Dibs on the PINK one!
Aloha,
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
