The holidays have been harder than expected for me. I find myself slipping away in thought and sadness and do my best to pull myself out of it for my family's sake.

It has been 10 months and there have been ups and downs, but I now feel as though any real hope is lost and I have to figure out how to move on.

I am working on a longer post which started out as a response to fly above, but it has morphed into my thoughts on DBing in general... I will post that later

Here is my latest communication with w sent on 23rd. This was an email

"2nd,

My phone is officially broken & won't charge. (Phone carrier) will not allow me to open my own account & transfer my number without your cooperation. Is there anyway that you would be willing to sign a release of liabiliity for all phones conference with (phone carrier) verifying the change? I am desperate!!! I do not have a working phone, it won't charge & my work depends on 24/7 phone communication. PLEASE HELP ME!!!"

Does that communication sound like she is angry with me? I always respond to her and take care of things. I am not going to hold her hostage to our phone account. I responded within a few hours.

"Sorry to hear about your phone; I will do what I can to help you. I am in (vacation home), so I am limited. I can't scan or fax anything (and you know my reception is terrible here). Can I send an email or something? Let me know how I can help."

She has not responded. She seems desperate and then she disappears. I don't get it.


Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)