She's acting different with her family here. It's understandable on its face, but they're my family too and I was hoping to not see a change. Weird... my feelings are hurt.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
PM, I think it is totally understandable for her to act differently in front of her family, and totally understandable for you to be hurt. Your XW needs to move at her own pace . . . and we don't call you PM for nothing! Hang in there, the holidays are tough. Wait and see what happens when things settle down.
In the meantime, keep being awesome. I know you will.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
reading your updates pm. wishing the best for you guys. patience is such a virtue
did you come up with a gift..
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
hey chin up. There will be other opportunities for W to behave warmer towards you with her family around. Just not this one.
M35 XW34 D5 D4 M 6years T 10years Bomb 5/2013 Joint Petition signed 6/2013 Moved out end of 8/2013 Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013 D finalized in 3 months - no news yet
Hi PM, hope you are doing well, and made it through the holidays OK!
I spent some time over the past few days reading your threads from beginning to end. When reading many of your posts, I felt like you were inside my head. I really relate to your sitch because I think we think a lot alike, and our sitches were somewhat similar. I could feel your pain in your writing.
You are far ahead of me on this journey, so it is really helpful for me to see how far you have come, and also to benefit from your hindsight.
Thanks for continuing to post - I always look for your posts on my thread and others. I've said it before, and I will say it again - I am rooting for you and your family.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
I spent some time over the past few days reading your threads from beginning to end. When reading many of your posts, I felt like you were inside my head. I really relate to your sitch because I think we think a lot alike, and our sitches were somewhat similar. I could feel your pain in your writing.
Thank you for taking the time to do that, though I suspect most others feel pain in READING my writing.
I'll be succinct now and say that I have MORE to say. I found the DR book and this site 13 months after BD, so I had lots of time to mess up before I started to figure things out in terms of how to handle my relationship. In that respect, you are WAY ahead of ME.
Originally Posted By: melissag
Thanks for continuing to post - I always look for your posts on my thread and others. I've said it before, and I will say it again - I am rooting for you and your family.
Thank you for your support. I really appreciate it.
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
reading your updates pm. wishing the best for you guys. patience is such a virtue
did you come up with a gift..
I just went with the specialty candles.
Thank you for keeping up with my sitch and I really value your support.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
hey chin up. There will be other opportunities for W to behave warmer towards you with her family around. Just not this one.
Good point. Thanks for the candor and the encouragement.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
I did a picture collage of the boys for them to give to my ex. It was cheap and personable toward the people she enjoys the most in this world. I am not included in the collage.
You seem to be doing well and prayers will be sent your way. Thank you for all the support throughout the year!
Merry Christmas to you and your family!
Great idea, but I ran out of time on something like you suggested.
Thank you for the prayers and support as well. You all have no idea how much it means to me to come here and see people caring about a perfect stranger like me (I'm not Balki Bartokomous).
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Well I took a calculated risk and made the slightest of movements reaching out to my little squirrel. Once her family is out of town and the holidays clear out, I'll be able to gauge her reaction.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
