Brandnewday and her h reconciled several years ago and once things settled down, she's not been back since.
HearthsBlessing was here several years ago and she and her h have reconciled. She returned for a short time because she still has some questions that she was seeking answers to. She now posts once in a while on another forum in cyber world. If I recall, she is still driving tractor trailers, i.e., just as her husband does.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
