My wife does the same thing regarding how busy/financially strapped she is. Yet she has made all the decisions to put herself into that position. It is very hard to empathize with someone who is ripping your heart out. She actually called me out on not being more sympathetic about her car breaking down, and she wants our divorce done in 7 days. I don't know if your situation will ever improve, but I can assure you your WAS will turn into someone you've never met and probably wouldn't want to date. That's how I feel at this point.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14