Reaching out for support and advice!!

[melissag]

Blues, don't beat yourself up!! The situation you are in is incredibly difficult, and you are only human, after all. Now you see that when you DB, you feel better about yourself, and when you allow anger and resentment to rule, you don't feel so good. So focus on that. Remember that, when you are handling the situation with dignity and calm, you are doing it for YOU . . . so don't stop just because you feel that your H doesn't deserve it.

Here's part of today's gift from Hazelden. It seems relevant today, for both of us.

The simple truth is, our own attitudes often determine what kind of experiences we'll have. Anger and resentment won't bring us peace. Suspicion and accusation will backfire. Most of us have tried to control all the people and all the experiences in our lives. And we have failed. Now we are realizing that the love that comes back to us is the love that we express.

I'm sorry your H is being such a you-know-what. And I had to laugh at your sledding story. It reminded me of when my H said to my S7: "No, you can't skip your basketball game. You made a commitment to your team, and people are counting on you. You don't blow off your commitment just because it's easier for you." Ha!!!!!

Well, what can we do? Just focus on ourselves and our kids. Make it a great one. ((blues))