He has taken money from me and continues to blame me and says he is so much happier now. When he says this it stings so much.
Really Tired? Step back and see this for what it is. You are enabling.
Why does it sting? He says he's happy being broke, living like a street walker? What? Is he on crack? Heroin? Anger?
Why does it sting? I think you're avoiding the truth in this situation. He's angry, lying, and a poor excuse for a human being (at least right now).
Let him go be happy. If you loved him, why would you want to stand in his way of that???
Your family isn't the person to make the decision. You are the one. And you'll make your decision when you're ready to. If I read you right, you're the type to not change your mind once made up. I'm like that.
I hear similar from my ex. My ex is far from destitute, but otherwise very similar in actions. Tells me all the time (I don't even return calls, email, etc) how happy she is. It's a bullying tactic, Tired.
What I learned was that I had to be the one to leave the relationship. Even if she had left/morphed the relationship, I had to be the one to emotionally leave her. She wasn't going to do it. She doesn't know how and she'd lose her favorite target for her anger.
If you love him, let him go. Learn to love you - I think you'll like what you find
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
