I worked with a woman, married, 3 kids who she loved dearly. Lovely, funny personality, artistically gifted, religious person, beautiful voice. She sang in the church choir and she and a man from the church began an affair.
They were sanctioned by their church and had to stand before the congregation and admit their sin. She was Dd (don't know who filed)and her affair with the OM continued. He was very controlling and emotionally abusive. Paid for breast implants and nose job for her, because she wasn't quite "right" enough for him. At this point all her friends were setting off warning alarms around her. The R worsened, he was also physically abusive as I recall. She eventually got away from him.
20 years later she's now married to a very nice man, they have a great R. She's happy, her kids are grown and they're good. She has a good R with the first ex.
She wasn't a bad person, she was just blinded by whatever that guy had that gave her something she thought she was lacking. And no amount of "talking sense" by family and/or friends was going to change her mind.
Many of us have wounds from the past we're trying to heal, some are visible, some aren't.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
