What is the low end of tolerable to you? I would be willing to bet that the low end of tolerable is WAY, WAY, WAY, WAY beyond what a ND spouse thinks is enough. For me a GREAT arriage would require at least sex 3 times a week, with lots of touching, hugging, and kissing, MULTIPLE times each and every day. Can a ND woman get to this point? I really doubt it, I would love to hear of one that has!