Hugs to you, willbwell: Really, don't beat yourself up: I am emotionally in the exact same place: Husband clearly has moved on in heart, I have not and want to do those things you just described: He is coming over today. So is your H: you have a new chance every day: You are really doing a good job and offering us all your support here too!
M 20 yrs me 47 H 51 s11 d8
BD 10/8/13 H Moved out 11/30/13 OW slept over with children Dec '13 OW moved in w/H Jan '14
I am praying for you and your family. I wish you all the best in the new year. Stay strong. We will hwlp you get through this. And believe me, you can and you will.
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TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
boys are skiing with h. d15 and I are having girl time! We've done this the last several years. When h came back home in July, we talked about d15 and I joining them this year. in the end, h said I could take the boys skiing if I wanted. I said it was a nice tradition for he and boys to keep. I know I don't need h's permission and could have booked our own plane/hotel. Kids would have liked it. would have just made h mad. h was here xmas morning to open gifts. as soon as we were done, he left. made me wonder if ow came in town. Perhaps her children are with their respective dads.
H cautioned me about sending wrong message to d15. I wanted to ask him if he has considered message he is sending to kids?? Kids obviously get it that h doesn't want to be here...
he'll do his dinners out or movies, but there is 0 hang out time. I am ready for a new thread...
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
thank you gm for always checking in on me. I guess I come here to vent and try and get this out of my system...really wish it were( out of my system). What to do about it? stop talking about it? then I feel I am just pushing it down and not recognizing... don't want to be obsessive. Absolutely know there is no way I would let h back in right now, not that he wants to be, but know that I wouldn't just be some idiot again and say "ok"
thought I would use this time while boys away to read some threads, some of my many self help books. D is sitting at the table with me here coloring.we have lunch plans later.
got lots of cleaning I want to get done. got movies I want to catch up on! Plenty to do!
I get that h prefers to not be here. to avoid seeing/talking to me. he doesn't see or talk with anyone. kids barely, friends, barely. not old friends anyway.
my grown boys never hang out at h's apt. At our home, we hang out by watching football, playing cards, board games,puzzles with d15.she is like a 5yr old. she will often ask one of her brothers to tuck her in at night. no, h is going to hang out here and they are not going to hang out there. and I can only do what I can do.
of course, I hate this sit. want it to go away. Want to get to other side. right now think there will always be lingering sadness(for me) at the impact on my kids. yes, they are grown boys, but does not make their hurt any less. They have not grown up in a slpit family. one son goes away to college to come back and find his family no longer intact. the other son loses the constant companion of both brother and dad and stuck with us girls(his mom and sister)both who constantly and won't leave him alone!
this is more than I intended to write. really thinking in my head for a new thread need to go for now.thanks for reading.
my next post will have nothing about h. My goal!!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
