I've been following along with your story. I'm so very, very sorry you have such pressing and painful issues that have come up, and here at the holidays makes it more complicated. You've been given lots and lots of great advice.
Just came across this quote the other day and thought of you so wanted to share it:
Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
Sending hugs and warm and loving thoughts today, rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway