Yes, they do become the opposite and it sounds like he was very concerned about your little one. Your h is afraid of death and it scared him when she was sick and he didn't have you to rely on and make things better for him and your d. Poor man.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
