Paul I can relate to your feelings, I can really hear your heart through your posts.

You've mentioned a few times that your family keeps saying to move on....if you are talking to them about your sitch often, you may want to think about not saying anything for now and keeping your thoughts of R here. Most of our family's are the same as yours, they dont want us hurting so the best solution in their minds is to give up on the M.

You may need to let your W "go" and detach for your own sake, but you dont have to give up hope for you M.

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope