I think you're doing the right thing about staying out of it for the most part. I don't know how that works with discipline with the church. What do they do?
I totally understand about wanting them to be outed...I think that is a natural feeling.
Me:35 BF:36 Together 4.5 years lived together 2 years moved out 8-13 still "together" but not together. Confused. D11, D13 (from 1st marriage)