not as scared or confused. . still hopeful (II)

[bluesgal]

Julie-again, so many similarities. Has your H suffered from depression in the past? Did he have those tendencies?

I will tell you about my experience and you can compare: My H used to be into fitness-a fairly on/off regimen, but always interested and at times has really lost a lot of weight and looked great.

Since the A, he has been drinking excessively (much less now, but when it first started, it was a lot) his weight is the highest it's ever been. I've noticed he has had to buy new jeans in a bigger size he's ever been. In fact, when we went sledding this weekend, he couldn't find any old pants that fit him, so he wore windpants in 12 degree weather.

His eating habits are horrible-gas station food, chips, fast food, crap. His stomach is giving him problems (tums in his truck). He started smoking??? Totally weird since he has asthma-inhaler and all.

He lays around and watches TV almost constantly when he's home. I know his oral and personal hygiene were super lacking as well.

This is not him. What gives. This is not the MLC behavior one would expect.

And the downward spiral? I get you there. I guess I will follow your lead and just get out of the way. I can't fight this any longer.

So, maybe your H follows more WAS/depression?? I guess it doesn't change the DB techniques, but I know what you mean about the confusion.

Sounds like you have a good connection with your C and I'm glad to see you turn the tables and work on you. I was going to tell my C the same thing at our next session!

You sound like you have a new accepting/confident tone in your writing. I hope that is the case. Keep going Julie!