I so know what you mean about validation and needing feedback if for no other reason than to get out of your own head. Personally I can drive me crazy arguing all sides. That was one of the reasons I started posting here.
People who were going through the same things and who would not hesitate to point out my own patterns. I know it is not quite the same as talking live but when you are feeling particularly blue come here to post. You will get the support that you need.