Hey, A. Wow... You have a lot of crap all hitting you at the same time.
Please, please take a deep breath and take care of yourself.
You do not have to make any decisions about anything tonight.
Find something relaxing to do... Read a fun book, take a bath, watch a movie or some mindless TV... Do anything that will take your mind off your kids and your H.
No matter what your kids or H think about you right now, YOU are important. YOU matter. YOU are worthy of respect and love. And, you ARE going to get through this and be okay!
We will be here for you in any way we can. Sending hugs!