After a lot of thought and reading I believe I an passive aggressive and this has ruined my relationship. My husband is too in some ways but I am more the aggressive one he is the more passive. Once we start a fight, a lot of time it's stated by me, we just can't shut it down. H said it's all me and I killed us. He may be correct. H says I pick on him all the time. True too. H is a stuffer, sneaky and liar. He is a big drinker and I hate it due to an alcoholic father. Sends me raging. H know a this and will lie about who he's with and what he's doing etc. H will come H and android me (buzzed/drunk) to avoid fight. I usually fail at this. So! I have learned I need to really work on this issue for myself. I can't do anything about him!! I will be starting today. I am sure it will be a long, painful and not easy journey. I can only try.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
