Wife says she wants to leave (Part 2)

[bluesgal]

cc-I have had a lot of these feelings recently. I believe, for me, that it's a little depression sinking in. The emotions of BD and the aftermath are high and consuming for days/weeks/months. We start to DB and work really hard. Then, things get quieter, routine, and it seems like it's hard to care anymore.

I think I need to enjoy these quiet times because the alternative is reacting (or trying not to react) to drama of the sitch. When things are quiet, we can hear our thoughts and feel our feelings and it can cause me a lot of sad moments. Like the dust has settled a bit and you get to take a look at your new reality.

I know that I care about things in life that don't seem to matter to me right now. I will get there again. But, I will also choose not to sweat the small stuff. Hopefully, a happy medium.

I wonder if you dig deeper than the feelings of apathy, if you will discover other feelings, like sadness, perhaps. I've been told by wise DBer's to feel these feelings, let them come over you and ride the waves of the emotions, gently. Allow yourself to feel and then move forward. I suppose this is all part of our journey and process