my wife left, but still lives with me

[tough spot]

Perhaps the frustration, but more so the numbness that comes with the WAW lack of emotion.........is what the WAW felt all the time leading up to the BD!

We went to counseling once and one of the things we tried to work through/change was not letting stuff build up. You know, you are irritated about x and y for two weeks, and then the tiny tiny z takes place and 'explosion'. The BD is like the ultimate version of that.

Thanks for the link scott, and the feedback Mr. Fly.