I agree. Take charge of it and assume she'll be flaky. If you haven't noticed she obviously hates (you? men? everyone?) and treats them all with disdain and contempt.
Assume she will continue to do so and take appropriate actions.
About the kids. Stop trying to make them see both sides etc. They're smart. They'll figure it out pretty darn quickly.
What you have been doing didn't and has not been working.
Counseling? BS. That counselor is an idiot. Fire him (and I don't care who hired him). Go back to the lawyer and get the visitation you've been awarded and ensure it sticks.
Your X is a bully, Sleeper. And you're enabling it. You're both wrong for it, and you're both paying for it.
Don't get me wrong Sleeper. I've been there. Not wanting to take a decisive action for fear (see that word?) of not being able to talk to my ex.
Stop. Look around. Get over the idea of talking to that putrid pile of dog manure of a woman and deal with all the rest of the stuff that needs dealing with.
The X'sH? He's a prize, isn't he? Taking bets how long he'll last before she tosses him to the heap?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
