J, you're really getting good at this. The others are right - you won't be happy about you if you don't give it everything you have.
As for the conversation? That was a pretty good one if you ask me. The outcome: Everyone notices the changes and they are good ones. Great really. She hasn't been "well" herself for a very long time, by her own admission. She is not happy. She doesn't know why you stay. i.e. she knows she has treated you HORRIBLY. She does know that, but not why. Her's to figure out though, you can't. The holidays are not a fun time for her. She is hurting and doesn't know how to handle it - yet. You are showing her how to handle adversity and what a real man is like. Makes the others look, well, less appealing And all of that? Doesn't really matter. You got to sing Christmas Carols to people that really needed it. People that never thought they'd be in that place at any time in their lives. People who were helpless. You, who are enduring a tough time (very well I might add) were able to give to others.
That's strength if I've ever heard it.
I don't really care what else your W ever does in her life, except how it affects you. I have a tremendous amount of respect for you and the things you've done. And for what you'll continue to do in the future. You haven't changed - you've just been waiting to be you
There will be many more tests. Don't leave your house. If she wants one of you gone, let her be the one to leave. And keep being you - the father, the husband, the man.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
