Aiming for the PMA of a glow worm....pt 3

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I hope he manages to find the time. I think kids can pick up on the vibe if it seems like a chore to make time for them.

At least he had the sense to have the conversation by text and not within earshot of my son.

You may have to be very explicit in telling him you don't want to hear anything about the OW. But then, maybe you've done that a time or ten.

Is a smack upside the head or a good swift kick somewhere painful explicit enough? I’m getting very close to resorting to that step LOL .

I agree, I think you need to set a boundary on this that you don't want to hear anything about the OW. My H has never done this, even when I knew he had an OW. Then again, the first time he wasn't an MLCer. It's helpful to post on the other forum as well and get their opinion. They deal mainly with MLC and some DB techniques. Sometimes I have to tell them about DB and 180s, lol.

It’s either a deliberate attempt to upset me – he only started this after I stopped the moping stage. Maybe he doesn’t like it that I can be happy without him in my life. One of my friends suggested that I get myself a new fellow and start talking about where we've been going, and see if H likes it.

It's so sad when they don't want to see their sons Again, I would put my foot down about this. Do you think he's getting his own back about you not offering to give him a lift on Christmas Eve? He may have gone into a childish sulk about this, lol. Hope it all works out ok

He knows there is no way I’d offer him a lift even if he begged – I set that boundary months ago that I would never drive him anywhere that had anything to do with the OW. And as far as I know, he has complied with that boundary. I’d be more inclined to think it’s more to do with the fact that my son doesn’t want to meet the OW. H is more likely sulking about that as he’s mentioned more than once that both her and her son are looking forward to meeting him. S13 is sticking to his guns about not being ready to meet them. He has said he'd rather miss out on a visit with his dad than meet them.