Reaching out for support and advice!!

[labug]

This is such a difficult time of year for family problems.

Does throwing in the towel mean filing for D? You probably know that that's not going to stop the pain and it creates it's own pain. I'm not saying you should or you shouldn't, only you can know when that time is.

But the process of working through this is the important piece. Don't throw in that particular towel.

I won't tell you to detach, but do things that feel good for you. You can still enjoy your children and the other family events. It won't be like other years but it can still be OK.

In his current state, he's not going to be a lot of fun. That's the reality so do the best you can without him.