Just chiming in with my support since I noted you said you were amazed how many in this sit. Husband moved out 11/30, Saturday of Thanksgiving weekend. We told kids (8 and 11) the day before the move out, because husband did not inform me his plans were definite until day before Thanksgiving: That's right, 3 days before (although he had told me he was planning to move out 6 weeks prior, I thought I was DB and it was going well).

As for the talk, although it was move out, not D, I let him do the talking, since how could I possibly explain? I just did a lot of hugging. All day. Occasionally will still say something to 11 year old when he is having trouble, like I have done everything I can and am still trying, but I can't control...

M 20 yrs
me 47
H 51
s11
d8

BD 10/8/13
H Moved out 11/30/13
OW slept over with children Dec '13
OW moved in w/H Jan '14