Thanks for asking. I went out with a Friend Friday night and today was our family party at my in laws. It was nice. My H didn't come he worked. My H and I are going Xmas shopping for the kids. It's going to be a challenge. He is working a 24 he shift and shopping with him on a good day is stressful. No sleep, grouchy and crowded isn't going to be easy. I'll do my best to be cheery! I hope you are having a great weekend!
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Well we went shopping and survived. We went to lunch which wasn't a good idea we had an argument but survived it too Now if Christmas would just come and go. Then we won't have to see each other and maybe we can just take a break from all the stress that doesn't help anything!
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Sometimes a break can be just what the Dr. ordered, it helps put things back into perspective, allows us to clear our heads a bit in certain ways. But don't fool yourself, they're still just as stressful. Only time will help with that.
Its hard to just shut off 19 years of interactions, even when they weren't all good. You get used to that being your normal.
Now you have to get used to the "new normal", or this version of it anyways. Glad you got out with a friend, bet that felt great to break from it all a bit.
After a lot of thought and reading I believe I an passive aggressive and this has ruined my relationship. My husband is too in some ways but I am more the aggressive one he is the more passive. Once we start a fight, a lot of time it's stated by me, we just can't shut it down. H said it's all me and I killed us. He may be correct. H says I pick on him all the time. True too. H is a stuffer, sneaky and liar. He is a big drinker and I hate it due to an alcoholic father. Sends me raging. H know a this and will lie about who he's with and what he's doing etc. H will come H and android me (buzzed/drunk) to avoid fight. I usually fail at this. So! I have learned I need to really work on this issue for myself. I can't do anything about him!! I will be starting today. I am sure it will be a long, painful and not easy journey. I can only try.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Today is Christmas eve. We are going as a family to a party. I will be looking good:).H is also spending the hight so he can be here for the kids. Then Christmas. .. I'm praying all will be good and I begin my attitude, no picking fighting journey. I have to work on my execution of words. I'm am too harsh and snotty at times. I know I know I Know I have to work on me and not think about what H has to work on. Hopefully he will follow my actions. If not I will be a better person!!
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
H just let me know he is now sick like the rest of us were. I was hoping since he wasn't here he wouldn't. So no party tonight. I would go alone with the kids but I don't know many people. I have a lot of wrapping to do. I know it's a good opportunity to get out but... Now I will have H here sick. H is soo grouchy when sick. Ugh. I will be happy go lucky nurse Rachet. I know I shouldn't the care of him and send to his own house. It's Christmas and the kids want him here. I'm just going to get mess and leave by his bed...
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
We had a nice Christmas Went to church with the kids. H spent the night with the kids. He stayed all day but was sick so not great for him. We didn't talk much but interacted. I W's a good day as far as no fighting! I starting to feel feelings going away and being easier. I have bought of sadness during the day but controllable. H has a hard time looking me in the eyes...He was very nice considering when he is sick he's usually very grouchy! . H left before dinner was done because not feeling. I decided to text him and say I will bring him dinner when it's done Said that's nice but I don't have to. I Said it's xmas. So we did. If it wasn't I would not have! The kids were talking about New Year's My sister in law invited us to her house. The kids asked H if he was going. H said he might work. Then asked me if I was going. I said yes I was invited. He said i know just seeing if you're going. Last year I was sick. H told kids he would see about going and let them know. I feel he is really noticing my distance, lack of talking. Especially OW or R at all. We'll see...I'm trying my best to stay on this path.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Two days of very limited contact. Few texts about kids. This is pretty good for me. Oh yes, I argue with myself all day long but I'm getting it done! H taking kids Saturday am - Sunday am. Yea...not sure yet what I will be doing but something. Even if nothing no one will know, ha ha.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
I asked my H to get his stuff out of the house. Said was doing last Sunday. Didn't happen due to xmas shopping.H in no hurry to get things out. Nor filing for divorce. Last time 7 years ago he move stuff out right away and filed for D. He still works non stop 6-7 days a week. I am sure a lot of it is to avoid what's happening. Although we need the money and he keeps saying that. H also has avoid talking to any of his family. Only one person besides H family knows and that's they guy he's living with. He doesn't talk to anyone about our sitch. But then I really don't either. But I have here .
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
H picked up kids this am. I know he was excited to do something with them. H is a great father and loves spending time with them. I had the thought today that besides missing them he wanted them so he wouldn't be alone today. This is really beside s TG & Xmas he has had off. He fills every day with work...
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
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