TS, you finally nailed it in a previous comment.

If she is truly done, shouldn't i be as well and start moving on

I know it feels counter-intuitive, and lets face it, you fake it till you make it. But that why its one of the 37 rules.

When you can get yourself into that mind set, that you aren't afraid of the future, that's when things will start to change for you.

Have you gone over to the saved marriages stories? Do some reading and see if you can pick up the common theme yourself.