wife hardens heart-6

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Christmas Eve AND Christmas is again, a big expectation.

I would be willing to bet that most parents on this board would balk at that.

She has full custody. I have unrestricted visitation with reasonable notification

Is this a common custody order where you live?

Are holidays not spelled out in the custody order?

I talked to XW abot having the kids over Christmas eve and christmas.

How did you ask? What words did you use?

Perhaps you should ask for just a little more than what you think you can get and then negotiate. What exactly did she say? What does vicious mean to you? Did you negotiate at all?

I don't know the history with your family but it sounds like even you agree that they behaved badly. Lots of people say hurtful things and then retreat to "I didn't mean anything bad." That doesn't make it hurt less.

It could take your W a very long time to get over that, if she ever does. You have to figure out how to make the custody work for you in light of that.

I'm not making excuses for your W, just the facts.

If the best you can do this year is stay very late on Christmas eve and be at the house very early on Christmas morning, then be there.

I hope you will have a good Christmas.