well, i blew it last night. as you can see from my previous post i was a bit on edge! Anyway, wound up bringing up the R, talking about past/future. To be fair it was a good conversation, no begging/no shouting.....basically a conversation that i would deem normal except in violation of the d'bing principles.
I have been reading other things and there is a lot in common between their advice and d'bing. primarily the only difference i have run accross so far is the actually discussing the R. Most other sources don't put the kibash to it. I think i can see the not discussing is a touch superior.
Back to the drawing board.
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
