Neither of you can be sure of anything other than that you'll work on things. If he only wants to move back because it's more convenient, he can tell you anything he thinks you want to hear to make that happen.

What actions tell you he's serious about this? Just like when we as the LBSs are making changes that the WAS can believe in, actions speak louder than words.

For me, I wanted to see and experience that my H had made changes, I wanted time for a few rough spots to pop up to see how we handled those. I wanted actions.

I think another question might be, what does working on the marriage mean? When you say that to H without specifics, down the road he may think he's working on the M but you might disagree. Can you sit down together and come up what that means to the 2 of you?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss