No real traumatic events in our lives and we have been together for nearly 40 years. My H just doesn't cope well with stress. He gets angry and irritable over nothing. His job was getting really stressful. He got a new set of male friends, clients, through his job. They are wealthy people. I think he got resentful that they all retired early and he has to continue to work...hmmm..like most of the world's population. He was very spoilt as a child. I think he just became resentful of things he couldn't have rather than all he does have. Immature...yes..very..but I think that's it. Unfortunately he needs a good wake up call. Life has been too good to him really. This is A really interesting thread.