As soon as we got home, W initiates R talk. Last time we had one if these was Thanksgiving. Surprise, surprise. Here's the rundown:
-We need to figure out what we are gonna do. -Why the hell would you stay here? -People don't just change overnight. -Everyone talks about how you've changed. -Not an MLC -I'm not leaving this house. -I'm not leaving my kids. -Nothing I have to do for them is ever a burden. They are my top priority -This isn't living. -I am not happy. -I am miserable. About 40 times -We don't talk at all. -I never know where you are or what you are doing.
I validated, kept my cool, DBed as hard as I could. I saw this one coming a mile away and was ready for it. When I did talk, I helped her lead herself into her own contradictions. I repeated her for clarification. I did let her know that I have heard her. Since last R talk, I have been staying out of her way. Since last R talk, I have given her space that she requested. At one point, she was so busy looking for a reaction from me, she couldn't even finish her sentence.
Nuggets: She doesn't know what she gets out of OM. Doesn't know why she does it. Everyone says good things about me. She admitted she had been "not herself" for a long time. It wasn't just at home. She hates her job and all responsibility. Not paying bills has nothing to go with me. Big step.
I left her to stew as I'm headed out to get some last minute gift items.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
