Ambivalent, I'm sorry that how everything is playing out for you. It's like the flood gates have opened up to show you everything at one time.
I'm glad you were honest w/your daughter about the hospital bill. At least she won't be surprised if something comes up.
I do hope that both of your daughters will be there for Christmas. You and the girls need to support each other in a time like this. I know that your oldest daughter can be a bit difficult at times, but I'm praying that she will settle herself down a bit and truly listen and be there for you. A movie would be a nice way to end the day, if she opts to come.
Was your h's parents like this, i.e., getting deep in debt and not having a way out? From what you've said here, this is not the first time he's done this. He's had to have been exposed to some of this behavior somewhere in his life. I can't imagine anyone getting this deep in debt and drowning like this, but I guess it does happen somewhere in the world.
I am praying that your lawyer will be able to answer some of the financial questions for you and I also hope that you can find a way to clear your name on some of those things. I truly feel for you and I am worried about you as all of this has been a shock today.
Please take care of yourself. I know this is stressful, but there's nothing you can do about what has happened in the past. All you can do is take care of the present and hopefully find some answers very soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
