TV, I'm sorry to hear that "she's" at it. Do not allow her to rock your boat just before the holidays. She's absolutely not worth the thought...but I do think that if she's got something up her sleeve, you'll find out about it some time during the holidays. She's not content to be put on the back burner for very long, especially with this time of year. Well, whatever it, let's pray that one of the elf's puts her in the empty sack and takes her back to the North Pole.
I agree w/rH, you have a lot of fortitude to be able to put up w/this affair as long as you have. My hat's off to you.
Please take care of yourself and those darling little boys.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.