This pattern is ongoing. For instance, I did not know he hadn't paid the loan on our house in another county. That was when he got downsized and we had to sell the house, put our first born in wilderness therapy, and I home-schooled.
When I look back at the years, the mis-managing of money has been throughout the marriage. He wanted to budget, and I had no problem with it , I just didn't sit down with him and go over it with me. My strength was not in numbers, and he didn't want to do the savings and college accounts I suggested. So I felt I had nothing to contribute.
I just had no clue that things were as bad as they are. He has got to feel so emasculated, overwhelmed, and hopeless.
I just told my daughter about the hospital bill, and to be ready for anything. She may be mature, responsible, and compassionate, but she is still having to deal with this as the child or what's going on.
My oldest has chosen not to come for Christmas, due to not having any gifts to give, and because she had her nose out of joint due to her vegan restrictions. She brought her stuff and yet still expected to be accommodated. I told her to bring what she wanted and not worry about the gifts...She did say we could go to a movie. I agreed, so we'll see. So it will be just the three of us. Uncle , daughter #2, and I.
I'm going to get a gift for daughter #2 and then make her the chowder, and homemade instant hot cocoa mix.
S I g h ...
It is just incredible how all this is going down
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
