Ambivalent, I am so sorry all of this has come to light, but things happen for a reason and maybe, must maybe this was suppose to happen because your credit standing is now on the line. I would ask the lawyer about your daughter's hospital bills. Since she was on her father's insurance plan, her credit rating may not be shot to h@ck as well as the loan for the other daughter.
Okay, here's the million dollar question...how long has this "recent" stuff been going on? Can you tell from all of the mess you've discovered? I wonder how this is all going to play out if there is a lien on the house. Surely, you aren't going to take that one on are you in order to keep the house. Uncle Sam may be coming to call to get their money very soon. Ask the lawyer about that too because the Government may come along and start selling off stuff to get what is owed in back taxes. I honestly don't know how they'll handle that w/your h and the huge amount he owes.
No wonder he wanted to default on the mortgage. My question is this...what has he done w/his money if he wasn't paying bills? Yes, he better run, in fact, he may want to consider leaving the country. He just might find himself in a white collar prison before it's all over w/if those taxes aren't paid.
I seriously doubt that he's going to harm himself. In my opinion, he would have done that when all of this mess start snowballing. I don't think he ever thought you would go looking for stuff this soon. Now, you've got to think about what you want to do because there is an awful lot of defaults floating around as well as taxes owed and a lien on the house.
I'm very sorry that this is coming to light now, but in a way I'm glad because you now know what you are going to be dealing w/and you won't be surprised later. Keep digging. You need all of that documentation when you visit w/the lawyer. He/she needs to know all of that financial mess up front.
I don't blame you....sell the snow blower!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
