Ambivalent, White Rose has responded to your latest posting and she gave you some excellent advice. Yes, you do need to acknowledge his email/text message so that he is aware that you received it.
As for the check, I would go head and deposit since you've done this in the past.
As for having documentation showing that your h has been lax in the financial department...this has to be shown because your attorney needs this data in order to establish a pattern and possibly hold his feet to the fire on finances in the future.
Do you stand? That is up to you and you are the only one that can determine that. You can move forward w/your life and leave the door ajar. If he should wake up and get his act together and want to return to you, then you can decide whether you want to try again. This is a very personal issue that we can't answer for you.
You'll continue to cycle and have ups and downs for quite a while. It's a very stressful and emotional time for you. Nothing has to be decided today and you've got some time to think about things. Don't make any decisions when you are angry or upset. You need to keep a clear head when dealing w/the separation of material and financial things.
You will get thru this, but it's going to take time. You'll discover that you are stronger than you think. I think you've held up quite well under this latest news.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
