DIG DEEP DIG ON

[Whiterose]

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Maybe it is just me cycling again, not sure.
You're tired hun, we go back and forth....it's normal

I'm going to have to show a pattern of him being financially irresponsible. Not something I want to do.
I told the judge point blank H has a history of bad money decisions and that I wanted my portion of the house money he is getting, for my back child/spousal, to be in trust. It didn't go well with him or his L but it's not about them.....it's about protecting us and our children

Do I stand? Would it really be best for me, or us?
Only you can answer that.......you need to move forward though, not an option, but if you feel the need to leave the door slightly open then do that as well.

Yes it would be best for our children.
Best, if our H's can make the changes necessary to grow up and take ownership of their lives. We don't want to teach our children that this behaviour is acceptable until the end of time either


I still haven't responded to his Dear Jane.

I'm wondering , do I even have to?
I feel like you do. As everyone said to you. That you received it, will review it and get back to him in the New Year

His Aunt sent a check, mailed it to us, but as usual written to him.
I have for years always signed it and deposited it in my acct.
I figure since there is still no agreement, that I'll just keep with the pattern.
I won't use but half, in case for some reason it becomes an issue.
It would allow me to get some equipment and start to work on my own. That would be a positive first step.
I talked to my boss and she said she'd lower the price she was asking me. So this is a step in the right direction.
I would think that if it's from his aunt you probably shouldn't deposit it but I'm no vet and I'm sure they have better advice

I'm going to church this morn, then the house. If I have any energy, the gym.
Good.....give it over to God this morning. Allow Him to comfort you and hear your needs. Trust He will never abandon you

I just hope my daughter (s) one day see I loved, cared , and was willing to give it my all.

That my back is up against a wall, and I have to protect what's left.
Girls need to see their mother fight for her family, you've done this, and then they need them to see it's OK to fight for themselves....you'll show them this now

Was I living a fantasy? Should I have gone back to work even when he said I didn't have to? Should I have been more involved with our finances, even though we disagreed on how to handle them?

Or would we still be here, because no matter how much money was made, it was still spent?

At this point , I'm hoarding as much as I can.
Woulda, coulda, shoulda, serves no purpose other than to make US crazy hun. You're starting here so make the decisions based on now. You're going through a very hard emotional battle at an already stressful time but know that WHEN you get through this you'll know you can get through anything.
Sending you big hugs and lots of luv!!