wife hardens heart-6

[planet]

Who cares what she tells people as long as she does it?
Not something I'd make a big deal about as long as you get to see your kids as agreed upon.

Yeah you are right. No big deal. Kinda stupid I brought it up.

That would have been above and beyond in most any circumstance, don't you think? Was it in the custody agreement?

Yes that would be so.
She has full custody. I have unrestricted visitation with reasonable notification.
In theory, I can visit my kids whenever, at any time and any place as long as I notify XW in advance.

I truly believed her when she said I can visit the kids everyday. Come to think of it, I think she said it to give me assurance that she would not stop me from seeing my kids.
As time goes by, she feels that I'm coming over way too often. I'm there to visit my kids and nothing else.

Some people never change and you can't make that happen. It sounds to me like you're doing your best to make things peaceful for the kids and you. That's great as long as you are getting was was provided in your D and the custody order. If that's not happening you could ask her about it once and if it doesn't change, go to the courts.

I am friendly towards her but lately I have been distancing myself. I just don't know what to say to her anymore.

In her own words, 'it's getting more and more nauseating looking at you'. I think her resentment is growing rather than subsiding even more so after I have made my 'requests' which she doesn't agree with. Maybe she's not getting the space she needs from me. Too much pressure.

She's a good mother. I believe she would not stop me from seeing my kids. I don't think it will reach a stage where we would need to settle disagreements in a court.

No matter the outcome or her personal journey, the important thing for you is are you happy with the way you're conducting yourself? Are you showing the world a Planet you are proud of?

I want to be a better parent to my kids. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing at all.
My new friend shows me a bunch of tarot cards. I commented that the people in the pictures looked sad. She said it is because I'm sad so I perceive things in a negative way. She's right and I want to be happier. That's what I want the world to see.