What she didn't tell her family is that she gets to go to jail if she ever dishonor it but she made it look like she is giving me my time graciously.
Who cares what she tells people as long as she does it? Not something I'd make a big deal about as long as you get to see your kids as agreed upon.
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Before the D, she told me that I could visit them everyday and can stay overnight on weekends. After D, she's different.
That would have been above and beyond in most any circumstance, don't you think? Was it in the custody agreement?
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Don't you see it? She has to be right all the time. She has to win everything. She doesn't care how I feel or what I want.
Thought I show some kindness by helping to fix things around the house. No thank you. No appreciation. Nothing changed.
Some people never change and you can't make that happen. It sounds to me like you're doing your best to make things peaceful for the kids and you. That's great as long as you are getting was was provided in your D and the custody order. If that's not happening you could ask her about it once and if it doesn't change, go to the courts.
I think ending the discussion when she gets angry and name-calling is showing good boundaries. I wouldn't listen to it either.
You don't know where this relationship will be in a year or five years. Not throwing gas on the fire can allow people time to thin, and once the emotion dies down she may become more reasonable.
Or she may continue to be an unhappy, resentful person.
Who knows?
No matter the outcome or her personal journey, the important thing for you is are you happy with the way you're conducting yourself? Are you showing the world a Planet you are proud of?
All the best, my friend.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
