Wife Said She's Done

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How we interpret may make it not as obvious and take the onus off us. I think Ad's right here and opening up a discussion can be a great way to handle different interpretations. I don't know how much clearer anyone could make it.

ScottCat, was this you?

"carefree, laid-back, whatever attitude (as she would say) that makes us late."

In the past did you do things to help her be more on time, knowing that it caused anxiety in her to be late? Would you do it differently today?

Throughout my S and now Piecing with my H, I've had to look at a lot of things about myself that aren't very pretty. For many of them I had the "yeah, but you..." defensive comeback. Eventually I realized these things weren't a problem only in my M but with my other R too so if I wanted to have a better life I had to change me. Many of the complaints my H voiced me were the starting point.

So did you in the past did you play a part in this or other issues that your W has voiced?

If that same "running late" scenario played out with a person you were in a loving R with now, knowing what you know, how would you be different?